Your mind is a magnet. What you focus on is what you get. Your thoughts and beliefs have power. You receive what you believe. This works just as powerfully with negative thoughts as it does with positive ones. Yes, bad things happen. You’re thrown curve balls every week. However, it is your interpretation that makes a situation negative. A surprise event or a challenging moment can’t drag you down. The way you think about what happens determines the ultimate outcome. Your thoughts and interpretations of people and events directly influence your beliefs, and ultimately, your actions. At any moment, you can fall victim to your own thinking. By choosing to have a negative, lousy, doom-and-gloom attitude you’re choosing to keep yourself isolated by pushing others away. Who wants to hang out with a life diminisher? By choosing to have a positive attitude of love and possibility, you become a life enhancer, attracting the same to you. That’s the way life works. Your attitude is like the positive “push” or “pull” of a magnet. Focus on what makes you feel good. Keep your sense of humor. You will keep a positive attitude when you learn to laugh, especially at yourself. Choose to believe that you’re in charge of your destiny and that achieving your dreams is possible. Choose to live with an attitude of hope, joy, and positive expectancy. Adjust your attitude to live the most exceptional life possible.
In life, you make choices. Some of your choices are great; others are mediocre or stupid. The art is to decide what you will do with the memories of your decisions. Will you allow them to drag you down, embarrass you, and guide you to make even worse mistakes? Or will you learn from past mistakes, feel relieved for being over them, and use the lessons to progress? Reflect on experience to gain understanding. Have a Socratic dialogue with yourself by asking the right questions at the right time to discover the truth of yourself and your life. What really happened? Why did it happen? What did it do to me? What did it mean to me? Ask questions that promote self-awareness and understanding of an experience, so that it can inform the future. This enables you to move forward, to be self-directed, proactive, and authentic. You emerge a leader with a distinctive voice of your own. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes, no matter how smart, well trained, or experienced. When we do, we feel terrible and stupid, and think that we’re alone in making mistakes, and so we tend to put ourselves down. Don’t beat yourself up. Recognize the experience for what it is—a loud wake-up call! Consider what happened and why. Constructively evaluate yourself. Take responsibility, learn, and move on. Learning and progressing are exciting. So, be grateful for a chance to learn something. Is it uncomfortable at the time? Sure. So cringe, if you must, then laugh, dust yourself off, and move on. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Life is all about choices. No matter what choices you make, you’ll make mistakes. Those tell you about yourself, your needs, passions, and place in the world. Relish those choices and lessons. Be grateful daily for the wisdom they represent. It’s yours for the keeping and sharing.
To move past the past, you must believe that today you can gain control by accepting responsibility for your thoughts, words, and actions. If you have experienced unfortunate events, you can either relive them, focusing backwards with a pointed finger or you can face forward, replacing past sadness with positive beliefs about who you are now, and with positive goals to create the successful person you'll be tomorrow. The choice is yours. Our anxiety doesn't come from thinking about the future, rather from wanting to control it Darkness always feels like a hallway, a narrowing of the world as we pass through. When one door closes, another door or window will eventually open but the hallways are always tough. Happiness is near, waiting for you to discover it. I wish that you always hear the voice in your heart when you face hard decisions, to hear it say to you, again and again: I will know. I will know. I will know.
The past is cooked, put a fork in it. Now rocks. Make a comeback. You can overcome any setback. Why worry? It's a useless emotion. It never gets easier. You just get better...
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